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Every one says they have it bad at home but they might not have it as bad as others.
Published on February 6, 2006 By spiffydude In Parenting
It has been about 10 yrs seen my mother and father have seperated.I know it may not be as bad as other familys but it was how it was said to me about the divorce.I guess the main point his why do people complain about there parents fighting and such???I mean i would be greatfull to get my parents together to fight for one sec.It all started when i was about 5. I its a vivid image but i can still remeber as if it were bedded down into me forever. I t was merely my bed time, and the lights were dim and i remember having school the next morning.Just as i laid to bed my dad approached me. He pulled me asside and slowly told me something similar to this,"I probably wont be here when you wake up because i have to go away for awhile but you will eventually be able to see me", well i thought its was something simple like a business trip but it was maybe a couple weeks till his court case when my mom and dad got divorced.I was young and didnt know what was going on i started to see my dad but he was never with my mom. i had to leave my mom s house to see my dad and i never really understood why i mean i was sure why they werent in the same place because the idea of there divorcement didnt quite sink in and to think of itit was this i just kind of grew into i mean i never really thought much of it. In matter of fact it was this verry year i found out why they got divorced. I mean it all relates to my last article,"Do You Feel Like Giving Up????" I mean my dad and mom got divorced because my dad spent to much time with me and my brother and didnt spend time with my mom and take her out on dates. I mean as stupid as it sounds they just gave up. Its not like they couldnt of done anything to talk it over. This was one thing they could of talked over or worked out.

P.S. PLEASE REPLY TO MY ARTICLE

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on Feb 06, 2006
Your parents didn't divorce because your dad spent too much time with you and your brother.

And I certainly hope they didn't tell you that.

If they did. They're lying. AND they're wrong.

Dad's are supposed to spend time with their boys. Lots of it. And loving mothers won't feel neglected but FORTUNATE to have a man love his kids so much. However, selfish women might get jealous, but then its not about the kids its all about HER.

Whatever happened it wasn't your fault for existing.

Don't believe that lie.

on Feb 06, 2006
yeah i mean it is possible and you do give a verry logic point
on Feb 06, 2006
There was probably a lot more behind the reasons they got divorced. I definately think you shouldn't blame yourself and I'm sure they wouldn't want you to. How old are you, by the way? Okay I figured it out around 15.

I have been having problems in my marriage and one of the reasons that I am fighting for it and not just giving up is because of my boys. Thank you for sharing this. It makes me feel like I am doing the right thing in trying everything in my power to work through our problems. We are in counseling and it is helping.

I had a horrible childhood not divorce but just no love and I still turned out okay. It taught me how NOT to be with my boys. You can still have a great life even though its hard now. Okay I'm going to use my mom voice now but study hard, make some goals for yourself and its really important to have at least one good friend.